Table of Contents for My Parent Has Cancer and It Really Sucks : Real-Life Advice from Real-Life Teens


Introduction viii
Chapter 1 The News
1(12)
1.1 A Hunch
2
1.2 Why Your Parents Told You the Way They Did
1(10)
1.3 Why You Reacted the Way You Did
11(1)
1.4 A Charged Word
11(2)
Chapter 2 Cancer 101
13(12)
2.1 The Big Question Marks
15(8)
2.2 Treatments and Their Side Effects
23(6)
2.3 The Cure: Why Isn't There One Yet?
29(1)
2.4 True or False
30(2)
2.5 Tell Me More!
32
Chapter 3 Let's Talk: How to Keep Your Family Communication Lines Wide Open
25(18)
3.1 How Much Do You Want to Know?
35(2)
3.2 What If You're Out of the Loop?
37(2)
3.3 Reality Check: How Far in the Know Can You Go?
39(1)
3.4 How to Keep Talking...Even If It's in Writing
39(4)
Chapter 4 How Things Will Change During Cancer
43(26)
4.1 Teenage Change Is Normal!
44(1)
4.2 Cancer Sneaking Up on You
45(2)
4.3 Changes to Expect
47(12)
4.4 Changes in Your Parent
59(5)
4.5 Siblings
64(5)
5 Parentification
69(10)
5.1 How It Happens
69(3)
5.2 Catching a Break
72(4)
5.3 Silence Isn't Golden
76
5.4 The Big Picture
71(8)
Chapter 6 Dealing with Stress
79(12)
6.1 How to Beat the Cancer Blues
79(2)
6.2 Exploring the Options
81(10)
Chapter 7 Risky Business
91(8)
7.1 Former Bad Boys: Gary and Jose Turn It Around
92(1)
7.2 Former Bad Girls: True Confessions
93(6)
Chapter 8 The Power (And The Limits) of Optimism and Faith
99(12)
8.1 Think Positive
99(2)
8.2 Faith and Spirituality
101(10)
Chapter 9 The Benefit of Friends
111(18)
9.1 What You Do (and Don't) Want from Your Friends
112(7)
9.2 Girls Are from Mercury, Boys Are from Neptune
119(1)
9.3 Accepting Help
119(1)
9.4 Have Fun with Your Friends If You Can
120(1)
9.5 But Can They Still Come Over?
120(2)
9.6 Social Networks: Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, and More
122(2)
9.7 Dealing with Friend Problems
124(4)
9.8 New Friends
128(1)
Chapter 10 School Daze
129(12)
10.1 School = More Stress or a Place to Escape?
129(1)
10.2 To Announce or Not to Announce
130(2)
10.3 Telling the School
132(1)
10.4 How the School Can Help
133(2)
10.5 Dilemmas, Dilemmas
135(2)
10.6 Keeping Grades Up
137(2)
10.7 The Need to Achieve
139(1)
10.8 Pulling a Bueller
140(1)
Chapter 11 Seeking Support
141(10)
11.1 The Adult Who Knows You
142(2)
11.2 Seeing a Therapist
144(2)
11.3 Group Support
146(5)
Chapter 12 Facing a Dire Prognosis
151(14)
12.1 Facing the News
151(1)
12.2 How Long Do We Have?
152(1)
12.3 When the Bad News Isn't All Bad
153(3)
12.4 Finding Hope When Things Seem Hopeless?
156(2)
12.5 Living for the Moment
158(2)
12.6 A Different Kind of Hope
160(1)
12.7 What If You Feel Closer to the Parent with Cancer?
160(1)
12.8 Avoidance
161(1)
12.9 Making Memories
162(3)
Chapter 13 Losing a Parent to Cancer
165(24)
13.1 A Dictionary of Emotions
165(3)
13.2 Mourning Doesn't Come with an Expiration Date
168(1)
13.3 All Kinds of Questions
169(1)
13.4 Life Goes On
170(2)
13.5 Dealing with Your Emotions
172(6)
13.6 School Can Be a Comfort...or a Pain
178(2)
13.7 Music Can Make It Better
180(1)
13.8 Staying Connected
181(8)
Chapter 14 The New Normal: Life after Cancer
189(20)
14.1 What Happens Now?
191(5)
14.2 New Normal Hiccups and Surprises
196(4)
14.3 Struggling in the Aftermath
200(1)
14.4 Becoming an Activist
200(2)
14.5 Same Old You
202(4)
14.6 Silver Linings
206(3)
Appendix A The Camp For Kids Coping with a Parent's Cancer 209(4)
Appendix B In Their Own Words 213(14)
Appendix C The Parents' Guide 227(30)
Appendix D Resources 257(1)
Acknowledgments 257(5)
About the Authors 262