Table of Contents for Examined Life : How We Lose and Find Ourselves


Preface xi
Beginnings
How we can be possessed by a story that cannot be told
1(10)
On laughter
11(7)
How praise can cause a loss of confidence
18(5)
The gift of pain
23(5)
A safe house
28(11)
Telling Lies
On secrets
39(5)
On not being in a couple
44(11)
A passion for ignorance
55(8)
On intimacy
63(4)
The bigger the front
67(6)
Loving
At home
73(8)
How paranoia can relieve suffering and prevent a catastrophe
81(5)
On the recovery of lost feelings
86(5)
Why parents envy their children
91(5)
On wanting the impossible
96(5)
On hate
101(8)
How lovesickness keeps us from love
109(12)
Changing
How a fear of loss can cause us to lose everything
121(4)
How negativity prevents our surrender to love
125(5)
On losing a wallet
130(6)
A change in the family
136(5)
Why we lurch from crisis to crisis
141(5)
Orr being boring
146(5)
On mourning the future
151(7)
How anger can keep us from sadness
158(9)
On being a patient
167(12)
Going back
179(10)
On bearing death
189(10)
Leaving
Through silence
199(7)
On closure
206(5)
On waking from a dream
211(6)
Sources and Notes 217(6)
Acknowledgements 223